Here's How You Can You Boost Your Self-Confidence

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Let’s talk about self-confidence for a sec ’cause boosting your self-confidence can lead to other positive things happening in your life.

Self-confidence is not only important for success but also a very attractive quality to friends and the opposite sex. Self-confidence can help you in your professional life as well as your personal one.To be self-confident, you don’t have to be conceited. Confidence is a presence you present. It shows through you being kind, direct, calm and in control. It shows you are capable without being cocky.

Women need a little extra self-confidence in today’s society, which has taught us you aren’t worth anything unless you look like a model, weigh 100 pounds and have a celebrity wardrobe.

I’ve got good news: you don’t need any of those things to have a great self-image or a great life. Those things don’t make you important, beautiful or better than others. They also don’t automatically give you happiness.

So how can you boost your self-confidence? A way to do this is to think about what you’ve achieved in life.

Here's How You Can You Boost Your Self-Confidence:

Being conscious of all that you’ve already been successful at completing in life is important. This reflection will allow you to see that you are perfectly capable of achieving anything you put your mind to. Even if these tasks seem like small potatoes to you, they are what make you who you are.

I find it’s easier to make a list of achievements. Actually seeing them written down makes me think about them even harder. Sometimes, one will also trigger the recollection of another achievement.

Writing down all your strengths is a must. Verbally listing them all is very difficult and actually seeing them written down will only improve your self-confidence even quicker. It’s hard for some people to be able to say they are strong in some category, they feel they are boasting. I know this is how I feel. I have a hard time listing strengths because I often don’t feel like it is really a strength. Any positive trait you have is considered to be a strength.

Thinking positively about not only yourself but also in your own capabilities will usually lead to positive responses from other people. Good thoughts usually lead to good things occurring. Being an optimistic person attracts other optimistic people as well. If you surround yourself with positive attitudes then you will be more likely to feel good about yourself.

Recognizing your insecurities is also a big part of self-confidence. If you know what your insecurities are, this will improve your self-confidence as well. People who are aware of what makes them insecure are able to either avoid these situations or confront and conquer them. Maybe you’re insecure about the size of your feet, well, then don’t wear red glittery shoes to draw attention towards them.

I have very large feet for my height, but I feel that if someone is going to judge me by the size of my feet, then maybe they are insecure about their own feet. Or, maybe they have an insecurity that they are trying to cover up by focusing their attention on my feet. Who knows? Try not to worry about what others might think about you. If you’re happy, that’s what matters.

No one is perfect. Remember that imperfection is a human characteristic that no one is without. There might be a few people who think they are, but there are other people that are easily able to see why those people are wrong.

Imperfections are what make every one unique. An imperfection isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Something that you might think as being an imperfection can be a positive trait to someone else. Some people focus on physical characteristics that they feel are imperfect, while others might focus more on character attributes. Think about what makes you unique instead of feeling like these make you imperfect.

Don’t brush off compliments. I know, sometimes it’s hard to accept a compliment, at least for some of us. I’ll admit, I find it difficult to say thank you for a compliment that I don’t feel I deserve, but I do it anyway. It comes across as being rude if you just shrug it off. Most people don’t compliment others unless they have a reason to. Very few people are random complimenters and go around doing this for fun. Just accept compliments graciously and say thank you with a smile.

What about you? What makes you feel more self-confident?

Valerie Fidan

Valerie is a San Francisco native who gave up the comforts of home to travel the world continuously. Now based in Portland, OR, Valerie is a Social Media Marketing Consultant, helping solo entrepreneurs and small business owners DIY their social media by teaching them the in’s and out’s of SMM. She enjoys health hacking recipes, a good cocktail, yoga, hikes, live shows, puns & dad jokes.