Setting Monthly Intentions

Setting Monthly Intentions -

September, already? It’s hard to believe that it’s another new month.

I try to set intentions every month to help keep me on track.

When I set my intentions, I focus on making them more about how I'm feeling, truly tapping in. Intentions are what fuel what I do everyday. They get me to actively think about my life and how I want to feel, my goals and the habits I am making to get to those goals. They're the little things I want to keep in mind within that particular month. 

Is intention setting new to you? Maybe you need a refresh. Here are the main 6 I focus on:

Think about what you're eating.

I love this intention. It's not super strict like "Don't ever eat carbs again" or “only eat vegetables and healthy things”, but will allow me to make conscious decisions about what I'm eating. Eating healthier has been something that is always my main focus. Since the start of Summer, this has been my focus because sometimes we all fall out of balance and our eating habits shift, so I'm going to make it an active priority this month.

I feel like this is something a lot of people struggle with. I want to make healthy eating a habit and something that I enjoy!  

Do something everyday that's just for YOU!

September is going to be a crazy busy month for me. I’ll be moving out of my apartment in Portland, OR to travel a bit and relocate back to San Francisco. Shocking! I know. I’ll get more into this in a late post this month to not shift the focus from this post.

With all of these changes, this intention is to make sure I pick up a good book, try a new food, bake if that is your thing, have a dance party or snuggle my dog everyday. Making time for myself to do something I love is a way I practice self-care. 

Get moving 3x a week.

Ok, it doesn’t have to be 3, it can be whatever number it is for you. For me, 3 is my magic number; it is doable when I’m bouncing back into a routine.

This month, I want to get back into a routine. I had sprained my ankle in July and have been slowly recovering from that. A lot of the normal workouts I would do, I had to take a break from. I didn't want to make it something like "go to the gym everyday" cause that's probably not going to happen. I just want to keep active by doing something like taking a yoga or Barre3 class, trying a new workout on ClassPass, or going for a run - keep those endorphins going!

Disconnect in the morning and before bed.

I am totally guilty of waking up, instantaneously checking my phone to read email, post on Insta, and so on. I’ve made it into a habit to go to bed early, and wake up at 5:30 almost every morning. I give myself about an hour to fully wake up, drink water, brush my teeth, write in my gratitude journal, and make coffee. I cherish the ritual of making coffee in the morning. There is something about this one hour in my day that I love and is special. It’s probably because there are zero distractions, and I can really focus on setting my day.

Maybe the challenge for you this month is to try and limit the constant need to be connected and save your phone time for something that really matters. Do you open your phone and read something that bothers you that it effects your sleep and how you start the day?

Focus on your missions!

Don't compare yourself to others. Not to me, your best friend, your neighbor, the woman that seems to have it all in spin class, not to anyone. TBH, this might be really hard. Gotta put those blinders up and FOCUS!

Do things from a place of love; not fear.

This intention is kind of the same thing. Am I posting on my blog today because I'm scared I won't have a successful business if I don't? Or am I doing it because I want to connect with other people?

Mindset is everything. 

What are your intentions for the month? Share them here, I’d love to know!

Make Today Magical

Making today magical, in a Rose colored hue city [Jaipur] with Masala Chai, Gold and Emeralds.

I am currently traveling in India and if there is one thing I've learnt is nothing will ever go as planned. Even in life. Today, the plan was to get swept away over Jaipur. Thanks to Monson season, a hot air balloon ride, while the sun rose was a no-go. Inside I opted to go gem shopping and purchased myself a dainty gold ring with an Emerald Gem. ☁️

I had envisioned today to be the start of new chapter of my new life, as I watched the sunrise from above as the pink and orange hues painted the pink city. In quite possibly the most romantic way to start the day.

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Well, 8.28... the day has arrived. Time flies by so quickly; exactly a year ago today the theme to my life was significantly different. G and I were somewhere in Europe, celebrating 7 years of marriage, in a part of the world that symbolically represented us as a couple, because seven years prior our month long honeymoon was the inaugural tradition of visiting Europe, and always sneaking away somewhere in Italy. Italy was *our* thing, our places, our humble adventure. And for the last 7 years I had posted the same darling photo of a candid wedding shot--my favorite wedding memory that evoked plenty of blissful emotion--thanking my former partner for all the great memories we had shared thus far and for all the magical moments to come, traversing around the globe. I would never have imagined a year later life would be a contrasting difference, and that I would be somewhere in India, up in the air... uncoupled.

Truth be told, this has been one of the hardest years I have ever lived, being confronted with a new normal without the best friend I had for the last 10 years. It's also been the most profound year rediscovering the things I need in life, and truly feeling all the feels. Somedays, though far a few in between these days, feeling debilitated and empty, other days feeling alive and grateful for every waking moment. I'm not dwelling on emotions or holding on to my past, because to understand my divorce, my bond, and relationship with, you must walk in my shoes. You'd see an amazing bond, respect and fun-filled run between two individuals. But at some point, if you stop growing as individuals and as a couple, you must walk away. The hardest part was acknowledging that the magical bond and romantic love that connected us was no more, but the respect and love as still there. To merely co-exist would have been a disservice two both. The most challenging thing you can do in life is facing these feelings and let someone go for their happiness, and for yours as well. (You can read more about this here - no need for me to write about it yet again.)

When my divorce was finalized, I knew I wanted to be somewhere today. I didn't know where; but, I did know I wanted it to be a place to mark a new adventure in life to make today the best yet so that as each year passed on this day, I'd look forward to it and not dread it with a heavy heart. So here I am; I'm in India, sky high (did I mention I'm scared of heights?), remembering the best 10 years filled with some of the best memories, yet welcoming new ones. This year I've unintentionally have lived my version of "Eat, Pray, Love" in neither particular order.  Or, in my humble interpretation: eat and drink everything, pray (I really mean yoga and meditate) often, and simply learn to love my life, my new normal... every ounce of it. Rereading Elizabeth Gilbert's book, I now understand the message and can relate. I get it.

This is all part of the eat, pray, love journey in this phase of life. Being present. Being vulnerable. Being embracing. Being selfish for the things that bring me ecstasy. The act of celebrating and really truly enjoying your life... Every bit of it.

With that said, here's to life, more adventures, and being unapologetically happy.

Valerie Fidan

Valerie is a San Francisco native who gave up the comforts of home to travel the world continuously. Now based in Portland, OR, Valerie is a Social Media Marketing Consultant, helping solo entrepreneurs and small business owners DIY their social media by teaching them the in’s and out’s of SMM. She enjoys health hacking recipes, a good cocktail, yoga, hikes, live shows, puns & dad jokes.

Press For Progress: International Women's Day

#InternationalWomensDay is an occasion to celebrate the progress made towards achieving gender equality and women's empowerment but also to reflect on those accomplishments and strive for a greater momentum towards gender equality worldwide. It is a day to recognize and celebrate the extraordinary acts of women. It's a day to press for change and create a movement beyond a social media hashtag. Janne Robinson really hits it home with this poem titled 'For The Women Who Don't Give A Fuck.' I leave you with this...

International Women's Day

"This is for the women who don't give a fuck The women who are first to get naked, howl at the moon and jump into the sea. The women who drink too much whisky, stay up too late and have sex like they mean it. The women who know they aren’t sluts because they enjoy sex, but human beings with a healthy sexual appetite. The women who will ask you for what they need in bed.

This is for the women who seek relentless joy; the ones who know how to laugh with their whole souls. The women who speak to strangers because they have no fear in their hearts. The ones who wear “night make up” in the morning or don’t own mascara. The women who know their worth, who plant their feet and roar in their brilliance. The women who aren’t afraid to tell a man to get the fuck out of her heart if he doesn’t honour her heart.

This is for the women who rock combat boots with frilly skirts. The women who swear like truck drivers. The women who hold the people who harass or wrong them with fierce accountability. The women who flip gender norms and false limitations the bird and live to run successful companies giving “the man” a run for his name. The ones who don’t find their success a compliment just because they have a vagina. Women like Gloria Steinem who, when she was told, “We want a writer, not a woman. Go home,” kept writing anyway.

This is for the women who drink coffee at midnight and wine in the morning, and dare you to question it. For the women who open doors for men and are confident enough to have doors opened for them. Who use “no” to be in service for themselves. Who don’t give a damn about pleasing the world, and do sweetly as they wish. For the superheroes—the single moms who work three jobs to make it. I salute your resilient, cape-flapping, ambitious selves.

This is for the women who throw down what they love, and don’t waste time following society’s pressures to exist behind a white picket fence. The women who create wildly, unbalanced, ferociously and in a blur at times. The women who know how to be busy and know how to plant their feet in the earth and get grounded. These are the women I want around me."
-Janne Robinson

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