Make Today Magical

Making today magical, in a Rose colored hue city [Jaipur] with Masala Chai, Gold and Emeralds.

I am currently traveling in India and if there is one thing I've learnt is nothing will ever go as planned. Even in life. Today, the plan was to get swept away over Jaipur. Thanks to Monson season, a hot air balloon ride, while the sun rose was a no-go. Inside I opted to go gem shopping and purchased myself a dainty gold ring with an Emerald Gem. ☁️

I had envisioned today to be the start of new chapter of my new life, as I watched the sunrise from above as the pink and orange hues painted the pink city. In quite possibly the most romantic way to start the day.

Jaipur gems_1.jpg

Well, 8.28... the day has arrived. Time flies by so quickly; exactly a year ago today the theme to my life was significantly different. G and I were somewhere in Europe, celebrating 7 years of marriage, in a part of the world that symbolically represented us as a couple, because seven years prior our month long honeymoon was the inaugural tradition of visiting Europe, and always sneaking away somewhere in Italy. Italy was *our* thing, our places, our humble adventure. And for the last 7 years I had posted the same darling photo of a candid wedding shot--my favorite wedding memory that evoked plenty of blissful emotion--thanking my former partner for all the great memories we had shared thus far and for all the magical moments to come, traversing around the globe. I would never have imagined a year later life would be a contrasting difference, and that I would be somewhere in India, up in the air... uncoupled.

Truth be told, this has been one of the hardest years I have ever lived, being confronted with a new normal without the best friend I had for the last 10 years. It's also been the most profound year rediscovering the things I need in life, and truly feeling all the feels. Somedays, though far a few in between these days, feeling debilitated and empty, other days feeling alive and grateful for every waking moment. I'm not dwelling on emotions or holding on to my past, because to understand my divorce, my bond, and relationship with, you must walk in my shoes. You'd see an amazing bond, respect and fun-filled run between two individuals. But at some point, if you stop growing as individuals and as a couple, you must walk away. The hardest part was acknowledging that the magical bond and romantic love that connected us was no more, but the respect and love as still there. To merely co-exist would have been a disservice two both. The most challenging thing you can do in life is facing these feelings and let someone go for their happiness, and for yours as well. (You can read more about this here - no need for me to write about it yet again.)

When my divorce was finalized, I knew I wanted to be somewhere today. I didn't know where; but, I did know I wanted it to be a place to mark a new adventure in life to make today the best yet so that as each year passed on this day, I'd look forward to it and not dread it with a heavy heart. So here I am; I'm in India, sky high (did I mention I'm scared of heights?), remembering the best 10 years filled with some of the best memories, yet welcoming new ones. This year I've unintentionally have lived my version of "Eat, Pray, Love" in neither particular order.  Or, in my humble interpretation: eat and drink everything, pray (I really mean yoga and meditate) often, and simply learn to love my life, my new normal... every ounce of it. Rereading Elizabeth Gilbert's book, I now understand the message and can relate. I get it.

This is all part of the eat, pray, love journey in this phase of life. Being present. Being vulnerable. Being embracing. Being selfish for the things that bring me ecstasy. The act of celebrating and really truly enjoying your life... Every bit of it.

With that said, here's to life, more adventures, and being unapologetically happy.

Valerie Fidan

Valerie is a San Francisco native who gave up the comforts of home to travel the world continuously. Now based in Portland, OR, Valerie is a Social Media Marketing Consultant, helping solo entrepreneurs and small business owners DIY their social media by teaching them the in’s and out’s of SMM. She enjoys health hacking recipes, a good cocktail, yoga, hikes, live shows, puns & dad jokes.

Press For Progress: International Women's Day

#InternationalWomensDay is an occasion to celebrate the progress made towards achieving gender equality and women's empowerment but also to reflect on those accomplishments and strive for a greater momentum towards gender equality worldwide. It is a day to recognize and celebrate the extraordinary acts of women. It's a day to press for change and create a movement beyond a social media hashtag. Janne Robinson really hits it home with this poem titled 'For The Women Who Don't Give A Fuck.' I leave you with this...

International Women's Day

"This is for the women who don't give a fuck The women who are first to get naked, howl at the moon and jump into the sea. The women who drink too much whisky, stay up too late and have sex like they mean it. The women who know they aren’t sluts because they enjoy sex, but human beings with a healthy sexual appetite. The women who will ask you for what they need in bed.

This is for the women who seek relentless joy; the ones who know how to laugh with their whole souls. The women who speak to strangers because they have no fear in their hearts. The ones who wear “night make up” in the morning or don’t own mascara. The women who know their worth, who plant their feet and roar in their brilliance. The women who aren’t afraid to tell a man to get the fuck out of her heart if he doesn’t honour her heart.

This is for the women who rock combat boots with frilly skirts. The women who swear like truck drivers. The women who hold the people who harass or wrong them with fierce accountability. The women who flip gender norms and false limitations the bird and live to run successful companies giving “the man” a run for his name. The ones who don’t find their success a compliment just because they have a vagina. Women like Gloria Steinem who, when she was told, “We want a writer, not a woman. Go home,” kept writing anyway.

This is for the women who drink coffee at midnight and wine in the morning, and dare you to question it. For the women who open doors for men and are confident enough to have doors opened for them. Who use “no” to be in service for themselves. Who don’t give a damn about pleasing the world, and do sweetly as they wish. For the superheroes—the single moms who work three jobs to make it. I salute your resilient, cape-flapping, ambitious selves.

This is for the women who throw down what they love, and don’t waste time following society’s pressures to exist behind a white picket fence. The women who create wildly, unbalanced, ferociously and in a blur at times. The women who know how to be busy and know how to plant their feet in the earth and get grounded. These are the women I want around me."
-Janne Robinson

💗 Share on Instagram - @valeriefidan - what you love about being a woman and tag a friend that you are celebrating today. 

What Yoga Means To Me and Why I Practice Yoga

What is Yoga and Why Do I Practice Yoga?

This is a question that I was first asked in my prep for Yoga Teacher Training at CorePower here in Portland. 

We’ve all heard the benefits of yoga. Yoga can help tone and define your muscles, it burns calories, and it can help you relax and feel rejuvenated. It's a dynamic balance that connects the mind, body and overall wellbeing

It’s often so easy in our culture and society to work so hard, study so hard to the point we felt stressed and burnt out. In my experience, it’s tough to connect to that state of being ‘in the flow’ or even finding motivation when you are tense, tight, tired, and burnt out, so that’s why I do yoga! Yoga keeps me flexible so that I can go with the flow in life, and helps me shed the layers of tension that build up mentally and physically each day. 

I started questioning my reason for my fitness choices. Was it out of ego or was there some sort of deeper purpose? Before deciding to make the first step of Yoga Teacher Training, I started to wonder why I do yoga, and why everyone else does it. My reason is simple: I do yoga because it connects me closer to myself, to others, and overall balance we all search for in this chaotic world. 

What is Yoga and Why Do I Practice Yoga?.png

Thinking back to my first yoga class over a decade ago, I stepped onto the mat for all the wrong reasons, and primarily because it was the super trendy thing to do. I was 18-years-old wrapped in the superficialness and materialism of living in Silicon Valley.  But, yoga was more than a trendy workout where I could sport my latest Lululemon gear. Little did I know then, how much I'd fall in love with yoga. My practice was and has become, the balance I need and the most influential teaching of personal patience

I started off wanting to get stronger, but I ended up learning about myself. My journey has turned into personal growth, and in time you do get stronger, physically and mentally. This became even more evident while in recovery from a lifelong eating disorder. During this period, yoga was the medicine I needed for inner healing. 

Over the years, as I've continued my practice, I've come across many individuals that have touched and moved me; while others have inspired me to dive in deeper. The idea of teach training was first planted over five years ago when I was still living in San Francisco. Yet, I never took the plunge. I always doubted that I was yogi because I was never embodied the yogi physic and wasn't exactly the most graceful or limber person in the class. Clumbsy is my middle name. 

I was not zen. Far from it. I lacked a lot of patience; often, my A-type personality would stop me from ever getting into the flow and silencing the endless to-do list in my mind. I also would practice consistently, then took long periods off. I never thought I was good enough to follow through training. As the years went on, and various life events happened, yoga was there. Yoga taught me the things I would struggle with on a personal level. Whatever happened, I could leave it on the mat.

I was lucky enough to have fantastic teachers, yet, Misha Kerpon was a teacher that really made me realize that you don't have to fit the yogi box and that yoga was fun. She would always make the class a lighthearted yet powerful practice. Misha had a way of making people fall in love with something she truly enjoyed sharing with the world. 

But why now? What makes this moment in time the perfect time?

Perhaps it is my recent divorce or my soul longing for a challenge, a deeper commitment to myself. I'm not sure exactly what it is just yet, but I know that this answer will become more evident in the eight weeks to come.

What I want out of it is a deeper connection to my practice, my community, and overall wellbeing. As my online persona has grown to be an influential voice within my community, I want to be able to help others find their self-love and appreciation in whatever they are struggling with. For me, yoga was my saving grace. 

Valerie Fidan

Valerie is a San Francisco native who gave up the comforts of home to travel the world continuously. Now based in Portland, OR, Valerie is a Social Media Marketing Consultant, helping solo entrepreneurs and small business owners DIY their social media by teaching them the in’s and out’s of SMM. She enjoys health hacking recipes, a good cocktail, yoga, hikes, live shows, puns & dad jokes.